well, here i´m.. since april living in asheville, mother of an 17 year old boy, artist with the bad habit to work all the time and a happy single…

but sometimes i would like to do something… and i have no idea what… than i sit here on my working chair and think and think and at the end… i turn the torch on and start working again…

i´m not a club person, even i like dancing sometimes.
i´m not an tittie in the wind person and do not like to be on places where all the titties have to be right on the marked table
i´m also not on the look for a date, i anyway can not understand american dating system so i stay away from that stress...smile

so, now, tell me, what can an person like me on a weekend or so do?

i´m probably more an middleway person and not from something realy straight (besides working...lol)
i do not eat lot of meat, but i´m not a vegetarian
i´m somewhat alernative but some times also conservative, so i do not realy fit in a box to be with hardcore vegans, hardcore alternatives or hardcore conservatives… i´´m just me

any idea where to go or what to do to see something different besides my work?

Asheville is such a beautiful place - in the Summer months it might be nice to find a friend or group that might enjoy hiking and such with you, and possibly a few of the swimming holes.

Bookstores are always fun to look around and there’s quite a few good ones here as well.  Personally, I love to read and have found the library system here truly outstanding.

Finally, volunteer opportunities also abound...depending on your interests you are sure to find plenty of openings there. 

I would check the calendar section in the MountainX to see if any of the regularly meeting groups jump out at you...book readings, spiritual groups and workshops, and, of course, volunteer opportunities.

just a few ideas off the top of my head.

well, i where more thinking in doing something like going out in the evening. i have no time to volunteer or such… hiking and such is great, BUT than i alredy need to know people to do that and the calender makes me headdache because it is just to overwelming…

so, i hoped that somebody would now what may be nice to do on an weekend evening, not just something for teens or twens where nice people hang out…

is there nothing out there?

guys, what are you all do on a weekend to go out? hope not everybody sitts like me and just works...smile

Firehazard, you seem friendly and outgoing… the MountainX is full of art things, silly things and things done as a group where you can be yourself and find others of like kind.  This weekend we went to the Big Crafty at the Grey Eagle, the Westville Pub movie night and something else i can’t remember for some reason.

Anyway, seriously, check the goings on in areas you already like to do, you’ll find plenty here and the people plenty friendly when you get there.

z

i was at the crafty show for a while, its just around the corner from my studio so i had a look.

my problem right now is, that i´m so new in town t hat i can not say wich area i like…

the only thing i do sometimes is driving up to downtown, going at the laughing seed and eat an avocado dip while sitting outside… not very exiting but i have no idea where to go…

when i read thing going on here, i realy have no idea what it is about… and honestly… the last 20 years i did not go out at all, i worked and worked and worked.... bad german habit… we are born somehow to work and forgett that there is an life besides...smile… now i try to figure where to start to go away from just working habits…

sonja

FireHazard - 13 July 2008 09:37 PM

i was at the crafty show for a while, its just around the corner from my studio so i had a look.

my problem right now is, that i´m so new in town t hat i can not say wich area i like…

the only thing i do sometimes is driving up to downtown, going at the laughing seed and eat an avocado dip while sitting outside… not very exiting but i have no idea where to go…

it really isn’t where you go, but when you talk to people to find interesting people and they will help you find something you might want to do.  I must’ve talked to a dozen people i don’t know and everyone was perfectly nice and some were even interesting.

I suggest Shilo

what is shilo?

FireHazard - 13 July 2008 05:14 PM

i´m not an tittie in the wind person and do not like to be on places where all the titties have to be right on the marked table
i´m also not on the look for a date, i anyway can not understand american dating system so i stay away from that stress...smile

I have to ask. What, exactly, is a ‘tittie in the wind’ kind of person? Maybe this is an expression that is lost in the translation, and i think i get your general gist, but…

“Right on the marked table” Okay, that one is WAAAY over my head, i guess. Can you explain (smile)…

Also, what do you not understand about the american dating system? This seems like an interesting topic on its own

dave

i woulds say that you know what i´m talking about… right?!

american dating system from the view of an european:
it about spending money and with high pressure to find mr. or misses right
man has to call woman out for dinner, they talk an bit and he pays the food.
if he is lucky they just start straight away an dating time… but that is not realy something to date somebody… that just means that everybody can date as any people they want to date (and have sex with) ONLY if it is exclusivly dating, than it has an meaning and that have to be spoken about… hey..what do you think...we should date exclusiv now.... huh

europeans just meet people, sometimes by forced exidents, drinking probably an coffee or tea together, everybody pays his.
no pressure, no hurry and if possible there is starting an friendship.
friendship between male and femal is pretty normal, as it is pretty normal that ex-partner still can have an normal friend relationship, at least if kids are involved they make somehow work this out and it is pretty much often that 2 expartners even come with their new partners and their kids on christmas together and just be normal people without argue and fight and being jelouse of something from somewhen…

in all this amrican way… i will not say that it is bad, it is just different and never will be my way… is for me to much confusing in.

here is see more that people date, than they sometimes figure that this is not going to become an pertnership and than they do not be able also to just be friends...just because

and there is to much payments involved, at least for the males… and if i see this well, they must get broke all the time if they are looking to date a woman…

and an other point is the happieness.... here partners have the job to compleate somebodys life, to make them happy, to be the soulmate to become the most importend thing in the world… huh… i do not want that my happyness is in somebody others hand. i need to be happy BEFORE i can be happy with somebody else.
if i give somebody the power to have the responsibility for my happieness ... that would be way to much power…

but that is my opinion and things i notice from looking around and watch the things how they go around. i have not datetat all since i´m in the US, because it just seems to be difficult to have not all that stress coming up. i sometimes met some guys for a talk at an coffee shop, but i figure pretty quick the things where they have to go...smile… and i´m not in a hurry at all…

hope that helps you to understand what i try to say

Hey FH
One thing that may help you would be to drop some preconceived notions about what Ami’s are or aren’t and how a German is supposed to be. 
I find that there is so much to do around there that sometimes I can’t get started on anything.
Do you do any sports?  Disc Golf is fun, there are ping pong tourney’s at places....lots of yoga, tai chi, craft, and art outings. I love Quiznos night (Mon.) at Jack’s.
Spiritual groups abound......
Maybe you could organize a Euro coffee group and discuss Ami’s
I think outing clubs and hike or bike groups are fun, we do that alot of sunday’s. Arboretum has fantastic groups associated w/ it.
Good luck, put down your torch and get out a bit....