The (PFKaP) - 06 July 2009 08:02 PM

“The best time to have a baby is when you’re a black teenager.”

    - Sarah Silverman

Or when you are 40 with no plan and no savings, having previously been declared “infertile” by the medical people.  I heartily recommend this approach.

It’s the crystal bed. it got you, too, huh?

When we got hitched it was more or less the conventional thing to do.  There wasn’t any other good reason to tie the knot.  I sincerely should have had my head examined but the wife really wanted to enter motherhood.  Well, it worked out but good grief, what a long and arduous struggle for a young married guy to bring home the bacon for a growing family.  The struggles of young parenthood led me to believe the whole system is up side down, sort of like the Curious Case of Benjamin Button.

In a saner society children would be born to well established parents or the “tribe” would be charged with the care and feeding, freeing up the parents to work and earn. Unless you have been through the struggle you can’t know how stressful it can be on a young marriage. The body certainly knows.

sex without birth control made the decision for us.

again, it’s the crystal bed…

Our first was conceived in a hotel in Nebraska during a one year/38,000 mile/19 state/4 country road trip (one flight was involved and being detained twice also involved) in 2000. We had sold everything we owned except camping gear and my little Toyota pick-up (RIP). We saved up for awhile prior to the trip and maxed out a credit card that ended up going to collections. Of all places along the way to sire a child…it was Nebraska. It also happened to be the very last night of the journey back to where we started (Colorado).
The second was very anticlimactically (except for mine) conceived with ‘let’s have another’ sex.

For those of you who have decided to have children I commend you…the US is ..I think at almost 0 population growth..anyway the Chinese and Indians have kicked our in the procreation department…if you are a women contemplating procreation..please find a healthy, male with great DNA to cavort like weasels with.. we need some great humans to continue this freaky experiment going…girls you can change the world with your wombs…

shadmarsh - 09 July 2009 04:22 PM

sex without birth control made the decision for us.

No maternity insurance either, huh? I think that actually worked out cheaper, but it was scary.

Our first cost us $10.  Of our two, a girl and a boy, both were planned and the second scientifically calculated to be a boy.  No fooling, at least according to the theory at the time, early or late in cycle determines gender. Oooooh, makes me horny just thinking about IT.

I read the depth of the semen is injected in the vagina determines the sex…Male sperm are more fragile but quicker..if they are injected close to the cervix they beat the female sperm out..if there is a shallow ejaculation the female sperm out last the male sperm and they win the egg race..

i became a mother out of love for the person i knew she would be. i felt as if i already knew her even before i became pregnant, and my doing so would facilitate our meeting. i wanted desperately to hold her! had to create her first ... (it wasn’t easy ... five years of trying) ...

i wanted to “grow” a fabulous human being in the same sense, i imagine, that (oversimplistically put) gardeners enjoy “parenting” their plants into being ... i wanted to be responsible for something beautiful and healing that i would leave to the world when i left it. i decided that the problems of the world were not a reason to AVOID having a kid, but they were great reasons to HAVE one ... she is going to make a huge mark on the world both spiritually and professionally, and i have a sense of responsibility and pride about having gifted her to the world ...

in addition to all the legacy stuff, having kids is a lot of fun, albeit incredibly difficult ... i have learned about myself as well as discovering this incredible human being who sprouted from a seed in my belly ... watching her grow up and discover the world has been an experience i wouldn’t take a gazillion dollars to give back ... i would take poverty and loneliness and illness for the experience of having her and watching her grow up (thankfully, i don’t have to, altho it seemed so at times) and she has made me a better person in the process ...

there is no single reason… but i remember these being foremost on my mind for the years i tried to conceive and all the years since that i have been raising her ... i had heard so much about how the love between a child and its parent is the strongest love ever (EM: yes! it knocks you over, yes? every day for me) and i wanted to feel that for myself ... and now i have ...

she’s grown now, and she’s kickin’ ass and takin’ names ... we’ve had a few rough times, but i never once wished i had decided otherwise ...

boredom, mainly.

Srly?

Srly.

pfff - 25 September 2009 05:28 PM

Seriously what?

You’re a parent?