brebro - 10 April 2009 01:42 PM
When people talk about “respect” in these cases, I think they actually mean “tolerance,” as in: they respect the right of every person to believe in whatever they want, but they don’t actually respect the actual things those people believe in, they only tolerate those beliefs.
When I was referring to respect, as in respect for church-goers, I did indeed mean respect - but respect for the people themselves, that is, I will treat them or relate to them in a respectful way and not condemn their beliefs or practices - at least not directly to them, even though I might totally disagree with their beliefs or practices in my own mind.
As to “...don’t actually respect the actual things those people believe in,” I think I’m in agreement with you. But I see that as more a tolerance issue than respect. And in addition to treating people with certain religious beliefs with respect, I will also tolerate their beliefs and practices as long as those beliefs and practices are doing no harm to me or my family.
I’m all for tolerance; a philosophy of live and let live is a great way for 6 billion people to get along on a small mudball surrounded by vast areas of lifeless cold night, but I draw the line at sincerely proclaiming I respect what I consider to be crazy beliefs of others, no matter how many numbers they are able to achieve that support their mass delusions. (For example: I don’t share the belief that:...
I agree with you completely on the live and let live philosophy. However, all the “crazy” beliefs of others that you listed, for me personally, it’s hard to see how any of those really do me any harm if the people choose to believe those things. Harm would come in, seems to me, where proponents of such beliefs would attempt to impose such beliefs on others, particularly me. If it is a sin to wear red and dance, and I’m wearing red and dancing, I wouldn’t take too kindly to someone attempting to control my appearance (wearing red) or behavior (dancing) simply because they felt it was wrong. The breastfeeding mom analogy again comes to mind.